Thursday, July 30, 2009

Phone Call

I just received a phone call from the Cancer Fund of America. I wasn't going to answer it, because I'd just walked in the door from dropping off Ian at work and taking the dogs to swim in the bathwater lake, and I needed to make a breakfast (I've had coffee—iced, with raw whole milk—but not yet my yoghurt and fruit), but I did answer, and here is what the lady said:

"We are an organization dedicated to helping women with various types of cancer get the care and supplies that they need."

And I thought wow, someone is calling me up to offer me some assistance, after all these years and all these treatments and all this therapy. I felt touched, and was looking forward to saying that no, I didn't need anything, that I have all the support and assistance I could ever use, and please find someone who needed help.

She went on, reiterating the assistance they offered, then paused briefly, and I was about to explain that I am fine and taken care of, and she said "So will you be willing to look over some information that I send you in the mail, and make a donation to help someone with cancer?"

I thought what?!?. I said "I have been dealing with cancer myself for ten years. I am currently undergoing chemotherapy. All of the resources I have, I need, to keep myself alive and healthy. "

She said, "Well, it doesn't take much to help out, just a little bit. Can I send you the information?"

And I thought, did you not just hear me? "No," I said, "I am not in a position to help others in this way right now."

Perhaps I am being selfish, childish, unkind. Because I have been, and continue to be, very lucky in my care. However, I have spent probably a couple hundred thousand dollars of my own money, a couple million of insurance money, and ten years of my life helping people—not just me—with cancer. At the moment, I tend to feel that that, plus however much more I have in my future (which will always be an unknown), is enough.

1 comment:

Adam said...

Shame on the caller for not listening to your response.

They're probably so focused from moving from one call to the next it's very easy to get into the habit of not listening to the reasons people cite for not donating, but that's not an excuse.